Most parents want their children to do really well in school. They want them to study hard and get the best grades that they can so that they can get a good job and earn well. Although this is admirable, it is easier said than done. Trying to get teenagers to spend extra time studying can be a battle and it can even lead to kids and their parents falling out. There are some things that can help though.
Discuss Their Priorities
It is a good idea to discuss with the children what they want to achieve. They may want a particular career which could mean that they need certain qualifications. They may be set on getting certain grades. It can be good to have an idea of what they want. You can then use that to motivate them. So, if they want all top grades, then you will be able to remind them of this when you are encouraging them to do their work. This can work well if they want a job that requires qualifications. However, if they want one that does not, then this can backfire as you will not be able to use it as motivation.
Get Help From School
These days schools try to work together with patents in motivating children to work hard. They see working hard as more important than grades and their aim is to get children to put in a big effort and that should automatically mean that they will be rewarded for that. You can use this to help to encourage the children by stating that the school has suggested they do it. If the teacher has given specific instructions, then you can remind them of that to motivate them. Sometimes they will be more likely to do things because the teacher insists rather than a parent.
Some children work well for rewards. Younger children might like a sticker chart and older children are more likely to be motivated by money. You will need to choose what you feels an appropriate reward and one that you can afford to give. This will not work for all children though and so you will need to think about what will work for yours. It might be that you will just want to reward them at the end of an academic year or daily for completing homework. It will depend on how well they respond to rewards and their age as to what might work and it is worth thinking about what your children might like and even if rewards will work for them.
Sitting down with the children to help them as they do their homework can be very useful for some. However, not all children will want or need help in this way. There could be other things that you can do though. Make sure that they have a place they can study away from distractions. Do not talk idly to them or have noise such as the television in the background. Make sure that they have everything that they need. You might help by bringing them drinks and maybe even food. If you need to make phone calls or have any other distracting noise around, try to go to a different location. You may help by buying them study guides or finding them resources to use for their studies such as videos.
Assign Times for Study
It could help to have a routine. It might be a good idea to have certain times when study is regularly done. Perhaps straight after school, after the evening meal, before school, weekend afternoons or whatever. It is worth getting a regular day and time set up so that it is easy for them to be able to remember that they need to study at that particular time and start a routine. They are less likely to argue with you when you remind them it is time to study if you have set out a study time plan with them.
Try Not to Argue
You do not want to fall out with your kids over this but it can be really tricky. Try to stay calm when you are discussing studying with them. Try to work things out together and make sure that they know it is for their benefit and not for yours. You will need to try to be flexible though and understand their needs as well as they will need to have a balanced approach so that they do not burn out.